Quote:
Originally Posted by Seraphine
Kamikaze is on the money there, and in reality it's actually very painful to borderlines who aren't malignant, due to the fear of abandonment. I have friends who have stone walled me this way, and it's a constant issue, questioning whether or not I should just shut them out and be done with it, whether they even really are my friends at all.
|
It is extremely painful to experience from loved ones. I've had friends walk away from me because their therapists told them borderlines were bad and that they needed to escape. So they did. I've also had those close to me use it against me and treat me less as an individual and more as a disorder. It is sad when the person you loved and trusted most in the world uses their knowledge of your issues to invalidate your thoughts, feelings, and perceptions on a regular basis. This is what makes me afraid to trust anyone with the knowledge ever again. Everything changes once they know. I can no longer believe that there is any true acceptance or safety.