I wondered if there was someone else who was experiencing what I've been experiencing - or at least close to it. Thank you for sharing your story Brassyhub, I really do appreciate it.

My wife and I haven't been intimate for a long time now. I would say, thinking back, we've only had sex once in the past 3 years. She hasn't come out as lesbian, however she has admitted she feels attracted to other women, though she says she hasn't acted on this either, as she really isn't that interested in sex at all.

We do share closeness, in hugs and small kisses, but the intimacy that we used to have seems to be gone (for good it feels) and it feels like a part of me has gone with it.

I enjoy(ed?) sex, but also I enjoy the touch of skin before and the quiet closeness after. As time goes on I feel so many mixed emotions. I've suffered from depression well before we met, and this situation is contributing to me starting to sink back down at the moment.

I feel resentment towards her - why did she marry me if she knew this was the likely path we would take? I also feel worthless, and my self esteem has taken a pretty big hit over the last years. I mean, this is the woman I chose to be with, and she feels no intimate attraction towards me?

You mention that this has been a 30 year struggle for her, but do you mind if I ask how long you've been married for?