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Originally Posted by hazn
What's the point of feeling anything?
Empathy is the basis of many other emotions. It must sound alien to you, but these emotions are a part of most people's lives. Presumably you know that, which is why you try to fake them... if you were an emotionless jerk all the time, I guess you wouldn't be able to affect anyone.
Question: You know what it feels like to hurt, presumably you've felt a lot of hurt throughout your life -- right? When you see that your behavior is hurting someone, why can't you stop? Like, you know what you're doing and that you're hurting someone, but you seem to simply not care. I get that you don't know what empathy is, but you know that what you're doing is bad. Hurting someone is bad, I'd hope even narcissists see that. I think the simple truth is: you simply do not care (which I believe you've said numerous times). It's not about your biology, childhood, environment, etc. Yes, these things can and do have an influence on your development, but do they force you to be the person you are? Are you suggesting that you have no control over your actions and that you're a mindless zombie?
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Thank you for answering my post.
Yes, I know what it's like to be hurt. I'm a survivor of torture.
Why can't I stop? Why would I? I don't have any emotional investment in stopping, like you said yourself empathy is the basis for many things and since I don't have the capacity for it it stands to reason that I simply do not care about such things. I don't have the emotional depth to care.
Narcissists don't generally know they're harming others unless they're malignant, then they know. The man who tortured me was a malignant Narcissist. Psychopaths and Sociopaths are fully aware of what they're doing, also. Traditional Narcissists though, they are oblivious to their actions... I see it in my mother's husband all the time. He seriously has no idea when he's being an asshole. Myself on the other hand, I know, I simply don't care.
I don't think any one thing forces me to be who I am. I just am who I am.
I do have control over my actions, I'm most certainly not a mindless zombie though I did find that comment humorous.
