My mother was the same!! Just the same!!
Mother was controlling, an obsessive dieter and always underweight.
I was not allowed to open the larder and take food. There were strict meal times.
I and my sister often felt hungry.
Mother controlled everything. I was not allowed to speak, she told me 'Your voice grates on my nerves, l do not want to hear your silly twaddle' No music, singing, no visitors.

I was barely allow to move, not allowed to touch HER furniture HER food. A bath once a week when she would check I only had 3 inches of water. I was only allowed to wash my hair once a fortnight.
If I touched anything in her house I would make sure she wouldn't notice. Like, if l got a pen out of a drawer to use it, I would put that pen back in EXACTLY the same place and position.
I still put other people's things in exactly the same position as I found them, still fearful they will rage at me.

Oh wow. (((((((((Hugs to you))))))))

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