Hello all! I've written some threads on here before but I've been in a rut.

My mom told me that I should try and forgive my grandmother. My grandmother was pretty emotionally abusive when I was a kid and she did some things that count as sexual abuse but I'm still in denial because I don't see it as abuse.

Anyways, I was molested when I was 5 and my grandma finally found out the true story last summer. She said, "If you told us exactly what had happened, I would've told your mother to confront the person. I thought they would have accused you of lying, so I said it's best if we don't say anything".

There's a story on the news about a girl who was abused by her step dad but her mother didn't believe her when she was confronted about it. My grandmother got really mad and said that the mother should have confronted the stepdad and she couldn't believe that the mother would accuse her kid of lying and how she would have kicked the step dad out if she was the mother...and this all begs the question:

Why did she react that way when I was abused? Why was her immediate reaction to assume that my abuser would just say I was lying? Why didn't she do anything?

So now that she said that, I am struggling to forgive her. I want to forgive her because I want to put this all behind me and move on but I don't know if I can.

Any thoughts? Sorry if this is all discombobulated. I'm very confused.