hi people of this forum, I come to you guys looking for some help with something I'm embarrassed to talk about in real life.

I'm an 18 year old male who has a fetish for womans feet and I also am a little into femdom/bdsm but its mostly feet. I have had both of these fetishes since I was a child, they were not caused by watching p***, so they will never go away, and I'm completely fine with that.

Now ever since I was 13/14 I have pleasured myself to feet and bdsm, not once doing it about sex. I have never been intimate with a girl, but the problem is I cannot maintain an erection thinking about a naked female. I could get one but not maintain it as good as my fetish.

I know I won't know if I can mantain an erection or not, but I feel like this is something I should really be worried about, so I have been on multiple forums about this looking for answers, and many have said to stop masturbating to ANYTHING.

I've been masturbating consistently everyday since I was 14 and such, I'm on day 5 of my reboot. I know my fetishes will NEVER go away, but they will weaken and hopefully my normal sex drive will emerge. This makes me feel like less of a man, I just want to be able to pleasure woman during regular vanilla and have her indulge my fetish.

I plan on not masturbating for a few months and trying to rewire myself, so I keep my fetish and enjoy more vanilla stuff, thank you all for reading this and I'm sorry it's long.