Sorry if this seems mean but I can't congratulate you after reading that.

My advice? RUN!

This woman doesn't LOVE you! This woman doesn't love YOU! (I hope the emphasis/meaning came across in both of those statements. Love is none of those things. Love isn't about control.

If you don't get out now, you'll look back in 5, 10, 15 years and wonder why you didn't leave.

Please believe me when I say that controlling people do NOT change.

Sorry to be blunt but she's taking advantage of you. You make more money but she gets the car and Won't let you buy one? WTF?!? You're an adult! She shouldn't have this power over you.

Here's my advice FWIW.

Break up with her. Like now.

Stay single for awhile. Become a strong, independent person who feels free to express himself.

And this may be surprising, but you are being abused. She's financially abusing you. Also, isolation from friends/family is a hallmark of abusive people.

I think you deserve better. You deserve someone who loves you as you are, warts and all. Think about it this way....she controls everything about you, right? She won't let you have your own opinions, make your own decisions, etc. I hate to say it but where is the part where she loves you for you? It's not there. She's a controlling person who is afraid to be alone. You are the chosen one because she knows she can control you.

I urge you to get out. There are people out there who will love you for who you are and won't want to mute you, isolate you, control you, and take all your money.