I have been dealing with something very difficult lately with T. It entails me cutting a family member out of my and my kids lives permanently. It is necessary but painful and hard for me to do so T and I are taking it slowly. She is very supportive of me doing it when I am ready and voice that. When I second guess the ability to do it or waffle about the decision T reminds me why it is necessary. So anyway, when we discuss this (and other issues really) I will frequently say something like I know you are right and I need to do this but it is so hard. She always says to me it is not about her being right but rather what is important for my mental and emotional well being. I don't know why but it drives me crazy when she says it is not about her being right. Maybe it is invalidating what I am saying or something....