[quote=lolagrace;4857967]I think she is just saying if you do this, it HAS to be your decision and you have to do it for yourself -- not for anyone else, including her.

I had to do this many years ago. It was a horribly difficult decision, but to continue exposing myself to that individual kept me in constant crisis and turmoil. It was hard to set that boundary concerning that individual and brought some things to a head. In the long-run it was absolutely the right decision for me, but it was one of the most difficult decisions I ever made.

This is exactly what I am going through. He is a huge trigger for me...he was not my abuser but how he lives his life is a huge trigger for me on a frequent basis...plus it is also about protecting my children from his antics..