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Originally Posted by divine1966
At 23 no need to give up! I wonder if you would be comfortable with settings that are structured such as meeting people in a class or a hobby group etc something that is structured rather than meeting people and not know what to say. Community classes? Exercise? Meetup groups? No need to find a husband at 23 but you could expand social circles
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Thanks divine, I didn't think about this until you brought it up. But I am definitely
much more comfortable in a structured setting. I do think it is time for a change in my daily routine. I want to sign up for some art classes
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Originally Posted by JustJenny
Don't worry about this. Time will come and you will meet the right person. Just be patient and in the meantime live your life, study/work - do what is best for you.
P.S. Do you live with your parents?
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Thank you for the words of encouragement. I'm not worried about being unable to meet the right person (given the amount of time I have). I am worried about my defense mechanisms which are causing me to close off and not even want to meet or get to know anyone. People say
"If you don't try, you'll never succeed." Right now, I'm too scared to even try. And when I do try, I immediately get frustrated with myself and purposely blow up my own chances. If I go in with the mindset "I don't want this," then no amount of people that I meet is going to change my mind =/
Right now I am working full-time. I do live with my parents, but given the hours I work every day, I hardly ever see them.
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Originally Posted by Serzen
I'm very selective with people and an introvert, so that makes things very hard. I'm not desperate either, although there are some days I wish this could be easier for me.
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Thank you for sharing that. I can relate since I am also an introvert. You put it in nice terms when you said you aren't desperate, but there are days you wish it could be easier. I wish it could be easier too. Glad to see that you have not given up hope just yet.