Sorry you have to deal with this. I wouldn't worry as much what he did in the past. People make mistakes for number of reasons. And some things just hard to admit ( number of sex partners for example etc). Also many people get std and it's unfortunate. I wouldn't judge that.

But I would be way more concerned about what he does NOW. He has a secret phone. No one buys secret phone to talk to ex wife. It is pretty clear why he has a secret phone. Also when you fought he went on dating sites? Ugh? Will he do it when married too?

Sorry he is not committed and isn't emotionally healthy and his behavior isn't going to change. Sorry for being blunt but you can never trust him.

Please do not marry this man. Consider it a blessing you found out now. Please be careful and safe and put your needs and safety first.

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