My T and I touch a lot but I still find eye contact makes nr feel incredibly vulnerable. My T says that because of my abuse feing "seen" is frightening to me ( pretty sure she is right about that). I have trouble holding eye contact. If my T really wants me to hear something and take it in she will insist that I look at her but I find it very difficult. However when I AM able to hold eye contact I do feel more connected and cared about.