I have always had a hard time making eye contact with people. I have been working on that. T is one of very few people I make eye contact with. However, whenever we are discussing something painful I can't do it. I look at everything but her. She has never mentioned it in fact I think she tries to respect that or she has the same problem. Occasionally I will try to make eye contact during these times and she will be looking someplace else. She is still very involved in the conversation just not looking at me.