wow..i truly understand...as my situation is not exactly the same, but the feelings behind the circumstances are real. Its harder when money is key. Counseling would be great, but she has to be willing to want help heal the marriage.

Women are not as complicated as some make us out to be, but it sounds like she's hurting emotionally. Sometimes men don't know how "reach"us and we get so frustrated and in turn we want to move on. I pray that you will be able to give her space to examine her life and then, don't give up. if she loved you once..she can love you again. Sometimes we need to go back to the basics in order to heal (this is what I'm trying to do)..not an easy task. but well worth it in the end. hope this helps.