oh...she cheated...I didn't see that part...her heart is with another man...thats sad because she didn't even give it a chance..even though cheating is not the end of the world because men have cheated for years and women forgave then. This is not to condone cheating but to say that, Im sure you married for better or for worst and that is something that will take time but you CAN forgive if you choose to..

More importantly, the marriage is already in a state where she has given her heart away.. and probably because she felt unfulfilled in some way. I would still give her space and you.... be healthy..... by not having ill feelings towards her. again, counseling would help if she's willing... I've seen marriages restored from cheating spouses, but not from financial difficulty. However, its still possible if you allow the process to happen.