Well said. My mother has her own ideas and values. Once she tricked me into going into a store where they sell furcoats because she wanted to buy one for me. That's her idea of a good gift or a good item to have. She doesn't see or want to see that people have other values and other interests. And she sees a lot of my interests rather silly or childish. For instance, when I was a teenager I really liked guitars. I still like them and I play them. When my husband told her that we bought an electric guitar for me she laughed and said "See!! She never changes!! Look who you have to deal with!". I found that offensive and I couldn't stop thinking about it. Then I asked her what is so bad about it and she said that there is nothing bad about it, it is just so cute and adorable. Man I felt stupid.

I always wondered what was my moms and dads marriage like. He was pretty active and decisive and my mother is (indeed) emotion driven and indecisive.

TishaBuv, I know you have problems with your mom but at least the problem is rather clear: she is being obviously unkind to you. With my mother I just don't understand. And I feel bad either for fighting with her or for not talking to her enough in order to avoid fighting.