I haven't posted in a while, but here goes. I was diagnosed borderline at 15 (I'm now 23), so I'm fairly used to all the joys (ha) of being Borderline. I match almost every criteria for BPD, which includes forming intense bonds with people I don't know very well. I'm high-functioning and in therapy, so I know how to "play it cool", not come off as intense or creepy. In the past, I've formed bonds with women I consider surrogate mothers; I've only ever had 'borderline attachments' with mother figures, and it's never sexual. I am fully aware of my mommy issues, so I have no doubt that's why I become attached to older, nurturing women.

It's been a few years since I've formed a bond with a new surrogate. Only problem is, this time it's not a teacher or coworker; it's one of my bosses. We have an interesting relationship. Her daughter is bipolar, and my real mom is bipolar. At work, I call my boss 'mom' and she refers to me as her daughter (it's kinda an inside joke). I'm terrified that I'll say the wrong thing and I'll get in trouble at work, even though I know she wouldn't intentionally get me in trouble. I'm not sure what to do or how to handle this. I can't seem to control my emotions or maintain my facade when she's around, and she knows something's going on. I have been a little depressed lately, and she picks up on stuff like that. Things nobody else notices. What do I do? Try to keep my distance so I don't say something stupid? Or just answer her questions?