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Originally Posted by newday7121
Please find a way to refrain how your speaking in plurals for your own safety. That is what I would do. It is really sad, because I denied and basically thought it was no big deal about being plural, but as soon as I got online to discuss and embrace DID and PTSD I got a plethora of situations like this....People in passing would ask who will stay with you where will this one stay, what will this one eat, who works where who is scared who is anxious. That only drove me to learn names and used them, but then it went even further to well are you a criminal now people with DID getting off with insanity pleas no one can keep up with all the names in public is your life divided with your alters name in everything you do like openly, which is a stupid question and assumption knowing there is only one social security number connected to one name, the only thing that changes in marriage is the last name on the social security card. It was very conniving and embarrassing. In my personal story, it was just another way to blame someone that was ignorant to what it even means to have DID. If you explain make sure you do it for the right reason so that singular people understand. We are not that different from a singular mind is what I subscribe to if not then people will want you to assess them, like we are in to diagnoses or something.
Kinda of like in the United States of Tara season 1 where the town seems to have know what she was and embarrassed her during that fight at her sons school. How could everyone stand back and let her switch like that!
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the tv series did that because it is a comedy show not meant to be taken as a representative of the disorder in the literal sense. the show purposely takes pot shots and uses humor thats what the show is.
but I do agree that its better in general for people to be very selective on who and what they tell about their mental disorders. Here in America there are privacy laws so that no one needs to know anyones mental health issues unless the patient chooses to tell others that are not their treatment providers.
in general when a person tells about their mental health issues its pretty much expected that the reaction can be negative or positive. Even the best of friends may not accept a person has a mental disorder. I go according to the saying you cant control others you can only control your self.
I did tell some people but it was an as need to know standard, for example I needed some time off after witnessing a crime because I had severe PTSD around the problem. in order to get the time off I needed I had to disclose to my boss that I had some mental issues to deal with.
my parents obviously knew because they were part of prosecuting my abusers when I was a child and the system placed me in mental health treatment.
I told my wife only a short time before we moved in together as partners. I felt she did not need to know until we reached that point. when we made plans to move in together as a couple thats when I sat down with her and explained things and invited her to attend some therapy sessions with me so that she could get all her questions answered and be comfortable before we actually made that move in decision.
my other friends well some know some do not, some will never know. I am very selective on who and what I tell people. I mean its right up there with who I discuss my sex life with , i dont just go around telling everyone about my private life.