I hear you! I'm a male 31-year-old virgin and it sucks.

You may indeed have either Social Anxiety or an Autism Spectrum Disorder. Or maybe you're just shy. In my case I think it was a mix of both -- I've always felt like I just can't "socialize" like "normal" people can; I just don't "get it". Plus I've always been simply repulsive to women for whatever reason -- lack of confidence, no self-esteem, physical unattractiveness, neediness, whatever. I must have asked out more than 30 different girls/women throughout my school years but every single one of them rejected me. I gave up on dating in college after some particularly bad "blind" dates. I just... can't connect with people at all. And now I can't relate to people my age at all.

I suggest focusing on your hobbies or work. Find something to fill that gap. It can be really hard and gets extremely lonely, believe me I know. But life isn't all about love and sex. There's so much more to enjoy. Forget society's weird expectations and "norms" concerning sex; everyone is different, and everyone's lives go different ways. Don't get discouraged just because you don't fit some stereotype!