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Originally Posted by TerriLynn
That is the whole point, We were not involved and weren't planning to be, the mother called US because she wants us to talk to them. She has been paying their rent and sending money, and she says she cant keep doing it. They CANNOT afford the rent on that place if the GF doesn't work. SS's mother said she only told them she would help until GF got working, which was supposed to be right away. That GF got a job right away was part of the deal.
GF is an adult and is mooching off of my step son. They are not married, they have no kids, she just doesn't want to work. She wants to be taken care of and he doesn't make enough money to do that. Hey, if he wanted a stay at home wife, that would be fine, but that isn't what he signed up for.
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Essentially the mom has created this problem and wants you/your husband to fix it. Tell her sorry, but she has to fix her own problems. Tell her sorry, but you aren't willing to take over responsibility for a situation she created. Tell her sorry, but she needs to talk to her son herself and not drag other people into the situation.
Maybe she's just a misguided mom who wanted the best for her son. Maybe she forgets what its like to be young and learning how to budget your money. Your SS and his GF may have been steered wrong by the mom, but in the end, its up to them to fix it since they're adults and they are legally responsible for paying rent, etc. (Uhm I hope the mom isn't on the lease, is she?) Maybe its time for someone to have the tough love conversation with your SS. Is he really....I mean REALLY aware that this girl is just using him? Or is the whole love/attraction thing clouding his judgment?
Breaking the lease may tarnish his credit, but in the end he could break free of this girl who is using him (which could be very much worth it). It sounds like this girl isn't going to get a job. I think a heart to heart with your SS is due....let him know what he's facing with this girl...let him know that you will be there for him (emotionally) but that you cannot give him money. It wouldn't be fair to you and your husband to essentially have to fund this girls laziness.