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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
Have you ever wondered what life would look like for you without T?? You obsess over touching T, who she has sex with, whether your art is better than her art etc and it just seems like it would involve a lot of time. I'm not judging but I have had a T abandon me and as a consequence realised how checked out of my real life I was.
New T asked what I wanted to achieve in therapy and I didn't even know. Apart from a few areas of pain I am mostly ok. Ex T caused me great pain and hurt but she also released me from any thinking about her, emailing/not emailing, trying to please her funk I was in.
I know you desire an intimate relationship and I hope T can get you there but perhaps time away may also be useful?
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I feel an emptiness thinking about life without my T. I could do IFS about this. Part of me thinks you're right, but another part is on the verge of tears thinking about it. I recently lost my H, and even though I feel free in a way I never did before, I know that I am grieving too. I need my T to be there to talk about him and the process. When I saw her every two weeks, it was very difficult for me. I always have so much to say to her! I do have a lot going in my life now, but I would have to gradually cut down sessions. Besides that, we are working on important stuff that doesn't have to do with her, that I need to get through before I think about a relationship with someone. So, I hear you, and you may be right, but I can't leave T yet. I don't have either of my parents, my H, and to lose my T too? I can't do that now.