Well the truth of the matter is that many "damaged" (for lack of a better word) people enter the world of psychology and counseling because they are looking for a way to help themselves and figure themselves out. Some of these people are unstable and not really fit to help others as they've never bothered fixing themselves. I think that this therapist is one of these people. She's being manipulative by calling you a bully, thus making herself into a victim. Uhm, I'm not for abusing therapists in the least, but C'MON, this is a career working with people who will get angry, will get upset, will push boundaries, and so on. Its her darn job to stay calm and handle things in a professional manner (something she clearly couldn't do).

Emailing 2x a month and calling 1x a month is not pushing boundaries with a therapist who has approved emailing and calling outside of session. Please don't blame yourself!

I don't blame you for not telling your new T. I think you got away from a bad T, but at the same time, if you tell the new T about your old T, your new T may have it in the back of your mind that you are a problem client.