Thanks Webgoji. This is very good advice. I too have noticed that I'm happiest when when I'm most loving and I've been making conscious efforts to be loving and helpful. These go moderately well until there is some sort of conflict - maybe my wife criticises me for something or asks me to do something I don't want to do. Then I often immediately revert to being conniving or aggressive in an indirect way. This might sound strange but the best thing I can do when she criticises me is to say "How dare you!" in a funny, exaggerated way and then make a reasonable reply. Once the anger has been expressed, I can then be more humble and honest. In the heat of the moment, I often forget to do this.