I can't say it any better than Feralkittymom or Elkino. I think your therapist said it in a really clumsy and awkward way. I would wonder if she didn't get impatient and just blurt out what she was thinking instead of waiting it out. It sounds like up to this point the two of you have developed a solid relationship and she needs to settle down and wait until you're ready. Those who are doing an "attachment" type therapy come to the point of trust at our own speed--or not at all if that's not your goal. I know that I can cry in therapy, but I can't talk about the really difficult stuff . . . yet. I like her, I think she's the right therapist for me, but deep, intimate trust is very difficult for me.

I wish your therapist hadn't said what she did because if my therapist had said that to me (even though I understand it intellectually), it would have skeeved me out and I'd resist, making the process even more complicated. Hang in there . . . if you still feel good about the work the two of you are doing.