I feel an emptiness thinking about life without my T. I could do IFS about this. Part of me thinks you're right, but another part is on the verge of tears thinking about it. I recently lost my H, and even though I feel free in a way I never did before, I know that I am grieving too. I need my T to be there to talk about him and the process. When I saw her every two weeks, it was very difficult for me. I always have so much to say to her! I do have a lot going in my life now, but I would have to gradually cut down sessions. Besides that, we are working on important stuff that doesn't have to do with her, that I need to get through before I think about a relationship with someone. So, I hear you, and you may be right, but I can't leave T yet. I don't have either of my parents, my H, and to lose my T too? I can't do that now.[/QUOTE]

I think it´s quite normal, not to have parents when you´re in your late sixties and you have never written anything positve about your husband. He disliked your obsession with therapy for what.... over 20 years now ? So I can understand if you feel more free now Good on you, but as people leave your threads, and new onces come, in a naive attempt to help, they problably don´t realize your age and years of the same pattern in therapy. I say, if you can afford it, go ahead and continue but don´t get people to involved in here with something you´re not gonna change anyways. Best of luck ( and I am writing this as support eventhough it might not seem like it )

Are you afraid that by t being with the man you might lose her? If she gets married, has a family, etc she will focus less on you and her clients? Even work less etc?

The reason I ask this is my T became involved in a new relationship a few years ago. While she is too old for children and such, she travels more, is less of a work-a-holic, etc. However, she continues to be a great therapist and such and continues to be there whenever needed.