I understand attachment in therapy. I think it is important to have a healthy attachment with your therapist. I too am a pretty guarded person and try not to show that I am even slightly attached to my T. If my T suggested I need to "fall in love" with her I would be out the door and never coming back or I would have just shut down and not stop talking. My therapist has an attachment style therapy. I really like and I trust her more than my past 3 Ts. However, I don't trust her enough with everything yet. I agree with jaybird57 people come to the point of trust at their own speed.