Yes, I have narcissistic / prideful impulses that I give into when criticised. I also seem to have low self-esteem in terms of not asking for what I want / need, avoiding saying my opinions, avoiding trying to learn new things, etc. One book that was helpful wrote about giving oneself compassion to deal with the shame of what we've done and I did focus on that for a while.

I invested a lot of my self-esteem in earning good money and providing for the family but my career focus has left me undeveloped as a person - a bit of a pathetic figure in fact.

Many thanks for your good wishes. Are you trying anything to overcome your passive-aggression?