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Old Jan 07, 2016, 01:04 PM
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Originally Posted by monalisasmile View Post
Good Luck dissecting this with your t tonight 1step.
I think that baybrony said what I couldnt say in such beautiful words and I think that sometimes t's can be human and phrase things wrong. They are not perfect but I would have to ask her about his because for someone who is suffering with any type of transference this could send us spiralling out of control. Our minds would certainly be working over time trying to interpret the meaning of t saying this but only she knows what she meant by it.
I think the important thing here also is how did you interpret it and do you feel safe enough with your t to (A) discuss it and (B) process what came up for you as you heard it and after processing it.
I think if you feel safe with your t and trust her to really hold these feelings for you, I think it's fine but if this is what your t means that you can become vulnerable and she will hold these feelings in a safe environment for you both to process them then thats fine and very good for you. If however, she means that you should fall in love with her, meaning feeding her ego or stroking it, that is very different and I would run, run far away!
Perhaps she means neither, only you know your t and only she can explain what she meant by it. I don't think that us interpreting it can really help you and could have a negative affect on your therapy. The important thing here is how did you feel as she said it and what will you do wiith these feelings now?
Thanks Mona, I'm on a lunch break so I have to be brief but yes, I will discuss with her tonight .. I do think her intention is good but it deserves more conversation.. As always thanks for your support!
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