Rainbow - I hope I didn't sound harsh. I don't always think "obsessive" as a bad word. Sometimes you've got to work at a splinter until it hurts but it's gone. Just hoping for you that you find peace from thinking about this. It's exciting to be heard but T is not the only one to hear us and it's a good plan to keep relationships that last around you. T won't last, sadly, so I guess I just hate to see ppl put all their focus and energy into that which is temporary.