As I said; bullying is all about Control. They were controlling you. ..."multiple people over a span of years tells you that you're ugly"...covers everything, when you want to feel bad about yourself. That statement is not very specific. Thus indicates you are fishing for reasons to feel bad about yourself."Obsessing" over it is That Process to keep feeling bad about yourself. It is re-enforcing bad feelings about yourself, over and over. There is more to attraction than just looks alone, and you know that. Time to stand up and be proud of yourself!