Yes, we have stopped trying. It's just we're young and it would not be a big deal for us to help her.

My husband has a pretty nice relationship with his mother. She accepts help and we do activities together. She also has a daughter who is my age and their relationship looks very normal, at least the way I see it. They don't avoid each other and do things together. I never noticed any tension between them.

I am pretty confused. I also feel very strange in front of my in-laws because we spent the Christmas time with them and did not visit my mother afterwards.