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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
Rainbow - I hope I didn't sound harsh. I don't always think "obsessive" as a bad word. Sometimes you've got to work at a splinter until it hurts but it's gone. Just hoping for you that you find peace from thinking about this. It's exciting to be heard but T is not the only one to hear us and it's a good plan to keep relationships that last around you. T won't last, sadly, so I guess I just hate to see ppl put all their focus and energy into that which is temporary.
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For some of us, myself included, the word "obsessive" feels like a bad word. I have OCD, so if someone says I'm being obsessive about something, then it feels like it's just a symptom of that rather than something real. I very much bristled when my T used that word with me recently. Though really, it dates back to my mom saying I was "being a bit obsessive" about certain people in my life as a teen (people she didn't think I should be that way about), and she meant it in a very negative, rather accusatory sense.
So I'm sure you didn't intend it as offensive. We all just have our triggers in terms of words/phrases... (I have a few others as well.)