[QUOTE=BayBrony;4860698]
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Originally Posted by Walkedthatroad
Me too. Rainbow has had a tough year and therapy is hard. And possibly she isn't obsessive about therapy in real life, only on thus forum which after all exists to talk about therapy.
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Thanks. I do tend to obsess about therapy in RL too, though.
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Originally Posted by stopdog
If you don't want to participate in a poster's threads, then don't. But no OP forces anyone to respond to their threads. I think Rainbow, like everyone else, gets to write about her therapy and if someone else doesn't like how she does it, then don't read her threads.
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Wow, sd. I appreciate your posting that!!
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Originally Posted by BayBrony
I do have to say that "fine then I'll never promise you anything again" Is kind of passive aggressive for a T. I hope you get a better response as you continue to discuss it
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Yes!! That came about because I said to her "I'd rather you didn't make promises you can't keep" so she said, "Okay, then we'll just leave it that when I go away, I'll see you when at our next session." I knew that was an unfair response from her, but I let it pass. Later, I realized I'm hurt by her saying that, when she KNOWS I worry when she goes away. I will tell her that at my next session. Sometimes she says the wrong thing but I forgive her.
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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1
Rainbow - I hope I didn't sound harsh. I don't always think "obsessive" as a bad word. Sometimes you've got to work at a splinter until it hurts but it's gone. Just hoping for you that you find peace from thinking about this. It's exciting to be heard but T is not the only one to hear us and it's a good plan to keep relationships that last around you. T won't last, sadly, so I guess I just hate to see ppl put all their focus and energy into that which is temporary.
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It's possible that I will see my T until either of us gets sick or dies, which is likely to happen to me first, but you never know. She isn't planning to retire or move away; she's only around 50, so she has a lot of years ahead of her, and she told her that her practice is established here, but I can see my sessions being reduced to monthly or as needed. I worry about my getting sick and wanting her more, though. No one knows the future, so I'm not making predictions, but my T didn't object to my continuing to see her long-term even though it's almost 6 years now. Of course this guy could get located and she could give up her practice and go off into the sunset with him....
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Originally Posted by junkDNA
i do something similar to IFS... it is called schema therapy. There is an healthy Adult mode who is supposed to manage and limit the negative parent parts and meet the child part's needs within reason. here is a link to information about schema therapy and the different mode descriptions-
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schema_Therapy
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Thanks!
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
For some of us, myself included, the word "obsessive" feels like a bad word. I have OCD, so if someone says I'm being obsessive about something, then it feels like it's just a symptom of that rather than something real. I very much bristled when my T used that word with me recently. Though really, it dates back to my mom saying I was "being a bit obsessive" about certain people in my life as a teen (people she didn't think I should be that way about), and she meant it in a very negative, rather accusatory sense.
So I'm sure you didn't intend it as offensive. We all just have our triggers in terms of words/phrases... (I have a few others as well.)
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I'm sorry. I tend to use words generically, and I shouldn't. Like obsession, depression, trigger. I hated when my former T called me "borderline" instead of someone having BPD. So I understand.
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Originally Posted by precaryous
Rainbow,
Are your feelings of "not wanting T to have sex with that guy" much different than a child being/feeling excluded when the parent's bedroom door is shut...and we, as children, weren't allowed in? Couldnt a little bit of jealousy be "normal?"
Also, commenting on age....if there is a need to be filled... I feel the need may exist no matter our age. 
Hope you and T figure things out. I can relate to a lot your posts.  |
Thank you. I told my T when she was still with her H, that I wanted to break down their bedroom door! So, yeah, I guess I'm jealous. I don't remember feeling that way when I was a child, though. Just about the family movies when my brother was in them, but I wasn't, because I wasn't born yet!