I've found therapy very beneficial but hard. It's given me insights, validation, a place to dump/ vent, support during a major crisis, allowed me to cry in front of another human being (hated that but I did it again this week despite trying hard not to) and understanding. I'm fighting maternal transference. Along with gin and Prozac, it's kept me going for the last year. It was one of several attempts to seek help over decades and thankfully, I just found someone I instantly clicked with. But I don't think it will stop me in the long term, although it will make the interval between now and then far more bearable. As well as allow me to forgive, grow and hopefully heal a little. I'm a convert, but I know it's because I'm very lucky to've found the right person. Being abandoned, boundaries changing and so on still worry me, but TBH, it's something I have to deal with. Couldn't do without her during this period of my life. Wish I'd had someone like her when I was younger.