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Originally Posted by Humpty Dumpty
I often wonder if I am odd/strange because I prefer female therapists & pdocs. Yes I am a man and no I have never had romantic feelings for any doc of any type.
I just feel that overall women are more compassionate & understanding than men. Ok maybe not understanding but to me I view a man as here is the problem now let me fix the problem. Taking the human element, me, out of it. Yet on the other hand I look at it as well maybe I don't need so much coddling. Maybe if someone was more stern with me I would be so weak. Maybe I do need a good whack upside my head to toughen me up. I'm just confused and feel like I shouldn't be.
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Personally, I love understanding why I do the things I do - getting to know me; so I can really appreciate the thought that you've put into this already.
I am a man who prefers a female therapist as well. We share the same reasoning I believe, though I frame it a bit differently. Women tend to be better communicators than men, so they hear me better. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but I believe that all things being equal - an intelligent, well trained, compassionate woman therapist is more likely to understand me than a equally intelligent, well trained, compassionate man.
And yes, men tend to be fixers. I don't need fixed. If there is any fixing to be done, I'll handle that. I just want to be heard.
I have another reason for preferring a woman to a man, and I'm curious if this reason resonates with you as well. Men are biologically more competitive than women. In social situations, women tend to form communities while men tend to form hierarchies. It takes an enormous amount of effort on my part to try to not compete with a man - to be smarter or "right-er". I think that is biologically inherent in all men, but as an alpha male, the tendency is even stronger. By working with a woman, I don't find the need to compete with her during sessions.