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Originally Posted by Elkino
I recognize some things in what you say. I think my T also knows that she can say those things to me, I always act strong enough to not (seem to) care too much about it.
And it's true, the moments she made things tough for me were often the moments where I learned a lot. I also tell her sometimes that I need that kind of approach. I need clear words, I'm pretty bad at guessing what someone wants to say when they don't say it explicitly.
So maybe she was right. But it stays a very general statement. I think I'll bring it up in one of our sessions. Don't know whether she'll still remember having said that, but that's one fear I battled and am not so afraid of anymore.
Btw, looks like you really found a therapist that is very compatible with the way you are. Love to read that you learned a lot, grew a lot.
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You should definitely bring it up, I always do that when something is bothering me and it usually leads to interesting/helpful discussions. My therapist is always telling me that she wants me to stand up for myself, and argue back if I think she's wrong, and I think any good therapist should want that, especially one that is as honest as both our therapists seem to be! You have to assume that they lead by example, right?
I'd love to hear what happens if/when you do decide to talk to her about it. I think you could both learn a lot from that conversation. I know I have from similar conversations with my therapist in the past, and she has told me that she learns from me, too.