My ex has Narristict personality. The 4-way is between the two of us with our lawyers. He keeps blowing off the one kid who wants to see him and is leaving me with a lot of expenses with all three. The court requires we try to mediate before court but in the past it has nothing but a bully session that ends up accomplishing nothing. I have come a long way in the two years I have been away from him but that is because I have kept contact to only e-mails. I think as time has gone by it has actually gotten more difficult for me to face him. His behavior of completely cutting the kids out of his life because "he has to protect himself aka his money" has made me have to accept how wrong it was for me to let us be under that type of control for so long. I have blocked so many things out of my memory and the meanness in his eyes and his condescending glare has become more triggering the longer I have been away from him.