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Originally Posted by Mountainbard
Since your self-esteem relies hugely on making money, you may have to just take a job you're not really excited about. Lots of people have to work jobs that they don't really like-- it's a trade-off for getting that paycheck. Try to stop thinking it doesn't seem like a job will ever happen, and turn your thinking toward "when I get a job" to help you be more positive. I hope you have good luck and get a job soon.
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Yeah that's what I was afraid of. Like I say I'm sure the craft store wouldn't be that bad but I really don't know how I would "fit in" there. Maybe if I knew for a fact I was the only one applying but if I can't even beat out the competition for a job I like, I really don't see how I could be the best candidate for a job I don't really like. I know that sometimes it has to do with their personality but if that's the case then my passion and personal experience is all I have. I don't see how I'd make an employer connect with me on personality alone when I'm so misunderstood. Idk I just feel like I'm doing them a disservice when I'm sure they have other candidates that are more passionate about the job/desperate for money or sociable than me. I know I do want a job but I'm not sure that is enough to make me stand out. The only way I see getting a job that I don't really like is if they want a diverse team so then I can disclose my disability but I feel like I can't win either way with that because if I disclose I may end up getting the employer that will discriminate.
People do say I need to be more positive but I have been mistreated so much in my life that I'm not sure I have much hope in me anymore. I get so tired of waiting. I just can't believe I've been out of college for 4 years and only a couple of months ago did I start getting this coach. I know that everyone goes at their own pace though but it's still frustrating.
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Originally Posted by Onward
My view on therapists, which I think most therapists would agree with, is that their help doesn't come by the way of them handing out a fix. They are your team member. This way, at least 2 insightful people are on Team Hypopup - them and YOU. They can't help you by the way of just giving you an answer to solve your problem(s) . . . you do it together . So, if you are feeling like you are not receiving enough guidance or verbal feedback, maybe let your T know exactly that and then ask them What the 2 of you can do together to improve your sessions. Maybe that can get things going in the right direction, or perhaps your T may recommend another professional more suited to you.
Also, I've read on this forum that some people who have a hard time opening up to their T find it easier if they write down their thoughts/concerns on paper or via email and let their T read it. Takes some of the pressure off of you speaking it. Others will share their post with their T. I think these are really great approaches. Maybe they can be useful for you.
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I know I am naturally a huge thinker so it's easy for me to overthink. I've looked up about how to stop that with no success so I guess that's also why I'm iffy about going back but I will consider about writing down and letting them read it. I am a better writer than speaker so it might be a little better.