I've been married for 17 years with 2 children. Very happy in marriage, no infidelity issues, love my wife, things are good.

About 7 years ago, I was working with this very attractive woman. Ever since I've been married, I really have not even looked at other women, especially at work. There have been some walking the street where I would be like she's good looking but nothing more than that.

Well this woman took a liking to me. I mean romantically. I was very flattered but was not going to take the next step and cheat on my wife. But throughout my whole time working with her, I was OBSESSED with her! I couldn't get her out of my head. I mean it sounds crazy but that's how it was. It was like a fairy tale where the witch puts a spell on the guy to fall for the woman. I would have thoughts of leaving my wife and marrying this woman. Or thinking of some scheme of having her around as my lover. NUTS i know!

So what do I do, yes tell my wife. She was very cool about it. She trusted me not to go the extra step and have an affair and she did a pretty good explanation of what I was feeling. And I tended to agree. Basically I'd been married 10 years at that time, not really looking at other women, and then someone suddenly took an interest in me, and it rekindled some of those single man energies dormant for 17 years. They were say put on hold for 17 years and it was only natural for me to feel flattered.

I bought that. I think that was correct and dead on. But I still was OBSESSED with this woman! She got the idea I wasn't going to have an affair but I think she was lonely and still liked I was giving much attention to her. This went on for another nearly year until we stopped working together. It took me months to get her out of my head.

OK present day. I was at a conference last week. And guess who I see like 5 years later. Yes, that same woman. We exchanged pleasantries and such but nothing more than that. She told me she still was not married and working in the area.

So what happens, REMISSION! It was like the spell was put back on. I really am not sure why she told me she was still single. I had a brief obsession again with her after the conference ended. I looked her up on facebook, thought about those same feelings again about being with her etc....

It s been like a week now but i can't get her out of my head or those same thoughts. I don't want to tell my wife this time as I think she'll think i'm crazy. Why is this woman still in my head! I'm still thinking these thoughts!

So please, am I just going crazy? Are these feelings some kind of longing that I'm missing in my marriage? I love my wife, love my kids, love my family life. It couldn't be any better. I consider myself a very lucky man. So I am very CONFUSED why I am still obsessed after all these many years by this woman!