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Originally Posted by Thunder Bow
As I said; bullying is all about Control. They were controlling you. ..."multiple people over a span of years tells you that you're ugly"...covers everything, when you want to feel bad about yourself. That statement is not very specific. Thus indicates you are fishing for reasons to feel bad about yourself."Obsessing" over it is That Process to keep feeling bad about yourself. It is re-enforcing bad feelings about yourself, over and over. There is more to attraction than just looks alone, and you know that. Time to stand up and be proud of yourself!
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It's not about wanting to feel bad though. I do feel like I have positive qualities other than looks. I consider myself to be a pretty smart guy and I think I'm an overall decent person, but I just can't shake the feelings of inadequacy. I see no point in telling myself that I'm not ugly because it would be a form of delusion in my opinion. I get envious when I see attractive people because I know that they didn't have to go through what I did, all because they look better than me. There are some times when I don't feel as bad about how I look but the feeling is always in the back of my mind. I try to keep it bottled up inside and not tell anyone, which is why I came to a forum to vent.