I've been going to therapy on and off with several different people over the past few years. I've mainly wanted to talk about self-esteem, depression and other related issues. I mentioned to the therapist I'm seeing now that my parents think I have Asperger's. Since then my therapist has been fixated on me having some kind of social disorder; she doesn't really seem to think I have Asperger's but instead thinks I have social anxiety. This is getting away from what I wanted to talk about and what my goals were; building confidence and learning to be content with myself the way I am. The "what's wrong with me" conversation is the kind of thing that I've dealt with from my parents for years, and a lot of the reason I have such low confidence.

The dialogue with this therapist was slowly drifting in that direction, but I still thought that things were going fine. In addition to actual goals a lot of the reason I've gone to therapy is so I can openly talk about my feelings and not be judged, which I don't feel like I can do in the family setting given the quality of those relationships. Therapy has gradually made me feel better over the past few years because of that. Despite that, in our last meeting before Christmas, my therapist told me that she didn't think we were getting anywhere and that she wanted to get me diagnosed for some kind of social disorder. I felt fine about that at the time and was giving it some thought, but when I went home for Christmas things went badly, and when she called to give me contact info for places to get tests done, I became extremely depressed afterward.

I've asked friends for advice and they say that I need to assert myself and restate what my goals are when I go see her next. I'm not sure how I feel about going back; the comfort level I felt with her has been damaged. Does anyone have advice?