I used to harp on my dad being a narcissist because it was comforting to know a condition that seemed to be beyond his control was to blame for his inability to parent. Then I did some research and sat with myself. I realized that npd was for me easier to swallow than the fact that my father made a choice to be what he was (and still is) to me. Right then I cut his supply. It's been three years almost and he still comes sniffing around for attention and affirmation from me when his latest victim wises up and jumps ship. I put my hand up and direct him to look elsewhere, he always tries again. It's never about me and always about him needing validation and affirmation. However, non narcissists hold the most power because we give narcissists significantion. When we take that away, we render them ineffective. My father avoided me for the first time in my life last summer and I was so happy, I nearly cried. I live in a new house in his mind. He understands that no matter how many times he tries, I will not give him what he wants.