I believe it is true that divorce (really any separation or loss - for me anyways) requires mourning. I read someone state that divorce is harder than widowhood. If you are the reading type, you might find some comfort in "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" at some point in the future. Abandonment isn't often looked at as a process like grief, but it is very much the same - even harder because the other person is still alive.

My T often tells me that therapy is going to make me feel bad - it's the work we are doing. I think this is to encourage me to hang in there and not get discouraged. It has often been said that the only way out is through. I think you just have to make it through. One day at a time is a good motto. The suggestion of not rushing is very good and so is the idea not to beat yourself up over it. I hope you find some actions you can take to find comfort during this hard time.

(((Lemon)))