My mom would never change....I just had to accept her for who she was. Good times without stress we enjoyed together...the times when not we stayed away from each other until it blew over for her....sometimes we just need to know how to deal with that DBT term "radical acceptance". Not good or bad it just is what it is & learn how to work our way around it making the best we can out of the situation....accepting them for who & what they are & same for ourselves.....seemed like my only way around the situation I experienced with my mother.