I know how much I disliked my parents & was embarrassed to even be around them in public by the age of five I was shaking loose of their holding my hand out in public & walking as far away from them as possible so that no one would know they were mt parents. At 5 years old I had no real idea what I was experiencing with them or really why....I just knew that something didn't feel right no matter how much they loved me & wanted me to love them.

It wasn't until I was 60 that I looked back & realized how totally dysfunctional they were & in researching the possibility of my H I left having Asperger's I realized my own dad fit all the descrtions also & my feelings toward my parents even at a young & really unknowing age were so negative.

Just because we want kids to fill that need for being loved doesn't mean if the kids are born without the MI coming down through the genes that they won't feel the stress of it on their own lives & push you away no matter how much love for them you have. Being accepted by peers & not having a parent or parents that create an embarrassing feeling to be around can tend to cause a child to push away their parents without really even knowing why....it's just an emotional response to what they are feeling & experiencing. I'm sure I am not the only child who felt that way about the dysfunctional parents I was born to.