T sent me such a nice email just now. She said "we're going to figure it out so you can go forward. If it keeps coming up it needs attention." She said to tell the embarrassed part that that's what your coming to T for.

FYI, we do more SE than IFS now, and we used to do EMDR. I've seen a psychodynamic T, a CBT one, been in DBT, and saw a T who was more behavioral oriented. Also one who was learning Gestalt therapy. They were each different but I still wanted to attach strongly. Current T is the only T with whom I have a secure attachment. She says I'm doing fine.