Interesting for me, I worked so hard to be nothing like my dysfunctional mom that I came up with my own different dysfunctional crap dealing with my own daughter. It's so sad when we don't have a good role model or mentor to learn from.....figuring out how to deal with life on our own is definitely a challenge & we usually act out OD our emotional mind rather than logical.

Dealing with your mothers comments has to be difficult. Sounds like she doesn't think about what she's sayin g before it comes out of her mouth....given your reaction I'm guessing she's been like this. All your life & you are just now trying to learn a new better way to react to her.

Remember radical acceptance doesn't place good/bad, right/wrong on the person....it's just the way they are....it sounds like this is really the direction you have been moving in......but....

Just remember the more time you do spend around a person like that the more your frustration level rises & the harder it is to be successful with radical acceptance......best to limit the exposure IMO at least in the beginning of working on this so you can get some positive experiences in handling those situations....you are doing a better job than I ever did, probably because I ended up marrying a very dysfunctional H so my patience level was already maxed out when my mom would throw her stuff at me on top of everything else.

Good job working on this...lol....I don't have the problems with my daughter that existed between my mom....but then my daughter hates talking on the phone to anyone (not just me) & uses text to communicate to everyone. Back before smart phones & lower cell phone rates I refused to pay the cost for texting....we never communicated....now we communicate much more often about more personal things...especially after I left her dad.

Relationships with either insensitive people or overly sensitive people is probably the most difficult challenge in life.