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Originally Posted by cloudsatall
Hello, I posted a few weeks ago in the relationships forum, about my minister and his wife wanting to fix me up with a male minister who lives about 200 miles from me. This guy, 'G' is 7 years younger than me (I am 52). I have not met him, only seen his photo and his facebook page. I struggle with depression(dysthemia) and low self esteem. I would like to meet him but the I am afraid he would not understand a person who struggles with depression. I also am afraid to get close to a guy, because I have been hurt in the past by a guy who was intelligent (and this new guy is intelligent)--the past guy was a narcissist and told me he loved me, then turned around and hated me. And my counselor is no help, she said that I haven't been "out there" in the dating world. Well, I don't see how that makes any difference--I am conservative and don't want to engage in sexual activity before marriage and also I am somewhat shy and don't like the idea of 'dating around' because I don't like casual relationships. If anyone has any ideas of books to read about depression, self esteem and relationships. Do depressed people find love?
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Hi clouds. It would seem we have a lot in common. I too suffer with dysthemia, & low self-esteem. I am "shy" as well. I have never been diagnosed as an antisocial but I honestly believe I am. I also believe in not having sex before you're married. With that said I don't think you're going to like what I have to say.
I am married to a woman I love & I regret it. I hate that I am putting her through this. I see myself as a burden to her & I don't want to be anyone's burden. Right now she is the only thing keeping me in this world. I know once I kill myself that it will hurt her deeply. Don't do that to someone else. Yes I know being alone sucks, but don't bring this on someone else.