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Old Jan 09, 2016, 08:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Only_Human1983 View Post
I just don't see what's so wrong with me. I've been told by guys and girls that I'm really funny, good to be around, kind and caring. I don't even let my depression show or tell guys about it as I fear it will put them off. However, I seem to have no trouble attracting guys, but they just don't seem to think I'm worth holding onto and that makes me feel really worthless

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There is a problem right there. By hiding who you are you become emotionally unavailable. By being emotionally unavailable, you attract people who aren't available for you either. That's a cycle you need to break. Don't be afraid to be who you are. The problem isn't how to hold on to these people who are not even good.

Problem is to learn how to be authentic self and how to attract right people and how to not settle for the ones who aren't good or are just "good enough". Problem is that you spend years of your life on liars and cheaters and the goal is not to go past maybe the most 3 dates with such men

My therapist said that growth starts with awareness. That should be your goal IMHO

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