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If your goal is to become emotionally healthy confident woman who is happy and content with her life and then attract emotionally healthy men ( or be happy otherwise) then it is a good goal. And seeing a therapist would be extremely helpful ( was for me, as I myself struggled with not attracting right people and settling for losers the way you do), if you cannot find a therapist then see a doctor.
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Of course I want that, but I just feel that after the rejection I have faced that it is a reflection on me and I'm the one with the problem, not these guys. Some have gone on to find relationships and marriage, so I feel it must be me. It's left me with virtually no confidence and that's where my problems stem from.
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You said you have a depression. Yet you don't see a psychiatrist or therapist or any doctor? Were you actually diagnosed?
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I've seen my GP to deal with my depression for several years. He is great and I've been through the NHS system and had counselling in the past. I am also on anti depressants. I've also seen therapists privately, but I can't seem to find one that truly understands me.
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Also get busy with life regardless if you are in a relationship or not. Keep busy
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I'm trying and I have now joined a gym and looking for another therapist. I also have two jobs, so that keeps me busy.
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If however your goal is to marry regardless who even if he is a cheater or compulsive liar etc then I don't think it is the best goal ever.
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Of course not, I would love to find a decent and loving man, but I don't feel I'm worthy of that and that's why I settle for what others would perhaps not.
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You continue being upset that this man who apparently was horrible liar and cheat is getting married. He wasn't even good BF! You keep saying you weren't good enough for him to marry you. Do you ever consider he isn't good enough for you to marry? Do you really think he is the best you can do? You are selling yourself short
I don't see anyone kicking you. I see people give you suggestions that could help
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